Monkey gets very anxious being in a group of kids, and it never fails that he melts down at a party, even his own. Last night he couldn't sleep and when I asked him why, he told me that his birthday was making him sad. Of course I pressed him for more details and he said "I just don't want kids at my party, I only want you, dad and Cathy (close family friend and the best hospice nurse on the planet!) to come to my party, does that make me mean?" I told him that he is in no way mean and that he should spend his special day as he wishes to.
Of course his not wanting friends over, not even really liking the idea of friends is heartbreaking to me. It will only get worse as his birthday approaches and I am asked the usual questions "What are you doing for Monkey's birthday?" and I have to explain that he doesn't want a party with friends, that we aren't having a big party for him. I don't want to make anyone fell bad, I don't want my friends or their kids to feel like we don't want them around, or don't like them. I also don't want Monkey to be so stressed out that he isn't enjoying his day.
I guess this is one of those times where a mom just has to suck it up and hope that people understand that Monkey is Monkey, and sometimes he wants people around and other times he just wants to be alone...
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